Pessimistic squirrels?!

Nooo! I don’t want to believe it! I’ve prided myself on being an optimist! And I just know that it is good for me to think optimistically!!

But…

research published by the American Psychological Association showed that pessimists, because of their penchant for seeing life through a grim lens, take steps to improve their health and thus tend to live longer than optimists.

In addition, optimistic seniors who overestimated how happy they would be in 5 years were found to have a 9.5% increase in disabilities and a 10% greater risk of death.

(It does make sense if you consider that the squirrel most worried about winter will save the most acorns and be glad that he did!)

But that squirrel is not really a pessimist; he’s actually a “realist.”

Seeing a problem (like your cholesterol level or being overweight) does not make you a pessimist, but can rather make you a realist. That mentioned study defined optimism as irrationally optimistic.

Irrational optimists think nothing bad will happen to them or their families, so they don’t take any positive steps to change.

True pessimists believe that their behavior doesn’t matter, so they don’t take positive steps to change.

A rational optimist is someone who starts with a realistic assessment of the present while maintaining a belief that their behavior matters. And so they take positive steps to change.

Optimism and pessimism come into play after you see the problem.

So…we can become rational and live longer!

We can channel our inner rational optimist by thinking of three proactive actions we can take to make things better.

• Maybe it’s limiting ourselves to only 3 desserts a week?
• Maybe it’s taking a half hour brisk walk 3 times a week?
• Maybe it’s just serving our meals on smaller plates?

Wherever we find ourselves, we can make some rational decisions. The choices we make as rational optimists can change our results.

Whatever aspect of life has us worried, we can still find a way to refill that glass!

So let’s be rational in our optimism!

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