Why don’t they change?
Have you ever wished/prayed/exhorted/pleaded for someone to change? “If only he would get a job.” “If only she would choose a different person.” “If only they would let me help them change.”
After all, we want the best for them don’t we? And…we just happen to think we know what the best should be.
If we see someone about to be hit by a car, we should probably intervene. It seems like the right thing to do. But…if they want to keep smoking, eat unhealthy and fattening food, or stay in a relationship that’s going nowhere, what business is it of ours?
Yes, I do know we only want them to change or realize their potential because we think they will be happier, more productive or achieve greater fulfillment.
But what if we would just let them be who they are and love them unconditionally like we often say we do?
Folks don’t want to hear a sermon. So what if we stopped preaching/ nagging/ reminding/ bugging our loved ones and friends about how they should change?
What if we were willing to just be a great example? To be the change we wish to see?
Just a reminder to myself! (and maybe you too?)
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Excellent message Pat. Love people for who they are and be an example.
Love and light,
Sandy