Now what?
We can pretty much count on getting sidelined from time to time. And it’s important to not allow a setback become part of the larger story we so often creative around our “life of difficulties.”
So What? Now what?
The “So what” puts our current life blip into perspective. And the Now what” can get us focused on choosing the next right action to take. For example…
- Your youngster/spouse/friend didn’t do something they were supposed to do. Okay. So what, now what?
- You didn’t set aside enough money for taxes/ vacation. Well, so what, now what?
- You got laid off from work. Hmm. So what, now what?
- You’re not feeling so great. In fact, you’re concerned something serious is going on. Well then, so what, now what?
We all have problems. (It has been said by someone that life is just a series of problems so that our life won’t be boring!)
But,
Rather than adding to our problems by complicating things with the stories we tell ourselves, we could choose to move on.
Using the “So what? Now what?” model can keep us from living in the problem and allow us to start brainstorming possible solutions.
I believe life is too short to waste time on being unhappy, being stuck, being angry. I also believe that life is too long to waste time on being unhappy, being stuck, being angry!
What do you believe?
And what do you do to get some needed perspective and to get yourself out of a problem you’re facing?
2 Comments
This is simplistic & targeted toward the minor bumps in life. But when trauma occurs, the only way is through. “So what.” Becomes the bandaid covering the cancer, the tolerance of the narcissist, the shame creating avoidance. Sometimes, the “Now what?” Requires the process of grief & anger to confront and to bring change. Only then, I think, can one fully move through and forward. Often, this process ends in a form of acceptance that feels unresolved, but that there is no complete solution for. Especially true regarding attachment & matters of the heart. A full spectrum of emotions is necessary. Being stuck in false positivity & apathy is equally as toxic as being stuck in anger.
Ilove the Maya Angelou quote. I also like the reminder of thing about what a solution could be, rather than complaing about what happened. Hey, it happened, move on to figure out what to do about it.