Change your language, change your life

We are often careless with our words. It shouldn’t surprise us, though, that the words we use are affecting our life. Be careful what words you are choosing to say.

If something can be called scary, can it also be called exciting?

If something can be called boring, can it also be called calming?

If something you want is difficult, can it also be called a challenge?

And if we rename it, can our experience then be different?

Maybe even better?

Step by step, you can learn to change your language.

(and, thus your experience!)

1. Notice how you say things. Do you say “I have to go pick up the kids from school.” “I should go to this work function.”
2. Replace “I have to” or “I should” with “I choose to.” After all, you really don’t have to do anything. If you are doing it, you’re choosing to, so own up to it.  (Make sure to make this correction not only as you speak, but also as you think in your head. After all, your thoughts dictate your actions and your actions are what determine how much you actually get done!)                                                                   
3. Notice the freedom you feel. Maybe you have been, as Tony Robbins says, “should-ing all over yourself.” So you may want to take some of those things off your list and lighten up.
4. Once “I choose to” feels like it has become your truth, take it a step further and replace “I choose to” with “I get to.” Because I can guarantee you someone would give anything to be in your shoes. You have to pick up the kids from school? There’s someone out there who would give anything to have children of their own. Someone out there thinks your job would be their dream job and would love to be in your shoes. You “get to” do so many amazing things. Appreciate them!
5. Once “I get to” feels like it has become your truth, take it a step further and replace “I get to” with “I want to.”  After all, you are in charge of what you decide to do. When you can say “I want to” with genuine authenticity, you will have made a huge difference in the experience of your life!

Being conscious and noticing what we think and say gives us the opportunity to choose what we want to experience and how we will be perceived by others.

Subtle changes can make a huge difference!

Can you share any additional language choices we should be making?