Letting Go means…

Do you find it hard to let go? It’s a lesson I am still learning…

LETTING GO(D) doesn’t mean not caring, it means not taking responsibility for someone else.

LETTING GO(D) doesn’t mean cutting myself off from others, it means realizing that I can’t control others.

LETTING GO(D) doesn’t mean caring for, it means caring about.

LETTING GO(D) does mean:

• to stop assisting others in avoiding the consequences of their choices;
• to stop  being protective, and to permit others to face reality,
• to stop being in the middle, arranging, and instead to be on the sidelines, cheering;
• to stop adjusting everything else to me, and to search out and correct my own shortcomings;
• to stop criticizing, changing and regulating others, and to be what I can become;
• to stop fixing, and to be supportive;
• to stop resisting, and to accept;
• to fear less and to love more.

(from What’s Growing On, a newsletter from the National Science of Mind Center in Washington, D.C. from a couple of decades ago!)

Have you experienced

• the pain of NOT letting go?
• the frustration of being unhappy with someone’s choices?
• the difficulty of letting a loved one make a “mistake?”

I think being a parent, being a partner, being a human-all make this “letting go” idea difficult!

Do you have any tips to share?

Leave a comment below!

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